Guideline 4: Feedback matters

Feedback about your behaviour is important — take it seriously. One person's feedback may reflect a misunderstanding, a personality clash, or a moment needing repair; similar feedback from two people signals a possible pattern warranting introspection, pausing, asking for help, and changing behaviour; a wider pattern makes acting on it the community's responsibility. Some people will not give feedback in the moment because they do not feel safe doing so — delayed or second-hand feedback still counts. Impacting one person may be a clash; impacting many means you have moved outside the group's values. Direct feedback at a person's actions, not at the person. Nobody is expected to be perfect — only open to feedback.

Deliberately left open — CF-001 — the tool's specified incident-report precondition (complainant must have told the perpetrator to stop) sits in tension with this guideline's own "delayed feedback still counts"; evidence pending from Stage 2. Preserved, not resolved.

Where this comes from · 19 source items

This draft merges what the community actually said across 19 source items — every source ID is permanent and traceable.

JBG-013 Feedback matters
JBG-014 If one person gives you feedback, it may be a misunderstanding, a personality clash, or a moment that needs repair.
JBG-015 If two people give you similar feedback, there may be a pattern emerging. That is the moment for introspection. It is best to pause, ask for help, and modify your behaviour.
JBG-016 Also be aware that some people may not give you feedback in the moment because they do not feel safe doing so. They may ask someone else to give you that feedback later. That feedback still matters.
JBG-017 If a broader pattern emerges in the community, then the community has a responsibility to act.
JBG-031 We do not expect anyone to be perfect. We expect people to be open to feedback.
OPIN-025 Feedback matters
OPIN-026 If one person gives you feedback, it may be a misunderstanding, a personality clash, or a moment that needs repair.
OPIN-027 If two people give you similar feedback, there may be a pattern emerging. That is the moment for introspection. It is best to pause, ask for help, and modify your behaviour.
OPIN-028 Also be aware that some people may not give you feedback in the moment because they do not feel safe doing so. They may ask someone else to give you that feedback later. That feedback still matters.
OPIN-029 If a broader pattern emerges in the community, then the community has a responsibility to act.
OPIN-042 We do not expect anyone to be perfect. We expect people to be open to feedback.
OPIN-075 When your actions impact one person negatively, you might have a personality clash. When your actions impact multiple people within a group you might be moving outside the values of the group.
OPIN-114 Nuanced stuff is all about feedback.
GTC-003 If a broader pattern emerges in the community, then the community acts.
GTC-011 The importance of people being open to feedback, we won’t get it right all the time
GTC-057 People being receptive to feedback re: behavior is key – we are imperfect as is the process, a commitment to growth and change
GTC-062 We do not expect anyone to be perfect. We expect people to be open to feedback.
GTC-071 Direct feedback at actions, not person

Themes · consent and feedback culture · reporter support · obvious vs nuanced transgressions

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